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Feb. 3rd, 2025 10:14 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
totchipandaOn Saturday I said THIS IS THE DAY and I sat down to finish most of the sewing on the Scout dress. In the AM I put the facing on and pressed it all (it feels too wide; it'll sit nicely when on the body but holding the bodice up at any angle, it's wrinkle city) and then worked on and attached the sleeves. The right sleeve fought me a lot, so I took deep breaths and said "after this I will eat lunch" and then did.
Attached the skirt, which was probably the easiest seam ever, and then of course I had to try it on! HEEEEE so swishy!! I also put on my Ettie petticoat and rolled up the waist so that the flounces would be hidden under the skirt, and that gave it a lil oomph. Some notes: A) the armscyes are VERY close but not uncomfortable; unsure if I would find the feeling of them to be too binding or what when worn. B) there is too much fabric in the bust. My darts are very pointy and also very blousy on the outer half of each side. I can probably take it up with a re-jigging of the bust dart but I'll need to revisit the changes I made to the original. C) I need more thread in that colour before I can do the buttonholes and hem, I definitely do not have enough to finish it. It is currently hanging in the closet to let the hem stretch.
Then I sat on the couch and dissociated for a bit. You see, my one social group was having a Lunar New Year dinner at a local restaurant. I had been unaware of the date, but assumed that I was not directly invited by anyone else bc my mother would be there, but Dad asked me to come and offered to spot me the cash for the meal. So, I decided to go. I needed to leave the house around 330 and I had initially planned to take transit two stops and then walk (it is VERY local) but not only was -buttfuck cold, but the train wasn't expected for nearly half an hour. (the advertising tvs said no delays reported, but then wtf was this??)
I cleaned off the car and managed to get it out of my icy well with 6" of snow on top of and around it. I was really anxious, I had many visions of us having a drag out fight where I walked out of the dinner after telling her what a terrible mum she was/is, but it was fine. They made some noises about how they haven't seen me in 5 years and I said yup, that's about right, and that was it. I was invited to their timeshare for a weekend in June (specifically for the weekend), and told about some local-ish events. I will NOT be going to the timeshare, and if i do the semi-local events, it will be on my own terms and my own schedule.
My therapist would be so proud. We had discussed me not letting my mum's presence at this gatherings deter me from going to things I really want to go to, and I'd even said to her then that my mum is not the kind of person who'd have a drag out fight about it, she'd just make some pointed comments and that was that. So I will consider going to some other wider events through the year and potentially saying hello at the Broadway shows. POTENTIALLY. Absolutely not to close quarters weekends. Not yet, maybe not ever. I need to figure out how to get to "this is a person i am friendly with, even though I don't particularly LIKE them. Alas, we are related."
OH she also had news of my grandpa, her dad (I call him Geepa). He has at least 2 kinds of cancer (skin and prostate) and was recently diagnosed as having autism (my sister had told me that at Beetlejuice, my response was "U DONT SAY".) He is not going to undergo treatment, as he will be 92 this spring and the treatments are worse than the disease at this time. I wanted to get out there to visit him, and now that I know when my mum is going (after his birthday, which is the day after mine), I will endeavour to go sooner.
After dinner on Saturday, I discovered that Amazon (boo hiss) had put up several new seasons of my ambulance show, so that's the next few weeks' watching sorted. Yesterday I did cross stitch a bit while I rotted and watched, but didn't do much else. That's ok :) Winter is for hibernating. And I made potato soup, which is so yummy.
Attached the skirt, which was probably the easiest seam ever, and then of course I had to try it on! HEEEEE so swishy!! I also put on my Ettie petticoat and rolled up the waist so that the flounces would be hidden under the skirt, and that gave it a lil oomph. Some notes: A) the armscyes are VERY close but not uncomfortable; unsure if I would find the feeling of them to be too binding or what when worn. B) there is too much fabric in the bust. My darts are very pointy and also very blousy on the outer half of each side. I can probably take it up with a re-jigging of the bust dart but I'll need to revisit the changes I made to the original. C) I need more thread in that colour before I can do the buttonholes and hem, I definitely do not have enough to finish it. It is currently hanging in the closet to let the hem stretch.
Then I sat on the couch and dissociated for a bit. You see, my one social group was having a Lunar New Year dinner at a local restaurant. I had been unaware of the date, but assumed that I was not directly invited by anyone else bc my mother would be there, but Dad asked me to come and offered to spot me the cash for the meal. So, I decided to go. I needed to leave the house around 330 and I had initially planned to take transit two stops and then walk (it is VERY local) but not only was -buttfuck cold, but the train wasn't expected for nearly half an hour. (the advertising tvs said no delays reported, but then wtf was this??)
I cleaned off the car and managed to get it out of my icy well with 6" of snow on top of and around it. I was really anxious, I had many visions of us having a drag out fight where I walked out of the dinner after telling her what a terrible mum she was/is, but it was fine. They made some noises about how they haven't seen me in 5 years and I said yup, that's about right, and that was it. I was invited to their timeshare for a weekend in June (specifically for the weekend), and told about some local-ish events. I will NOT be going to the timeshare, and if i do the semi-local events, it will be on my own terms and my own schedule.
My therapist would be so proud. We had discussed me not letting my mum's presence at this gatherings deter me from going to things I really want to go to, and I'd even said to her then that my mum is not the kind of person who'd have a drag out fight about it, she'd just make some pointed comments and that was that. So I will consider going to some other wider events through the year and potentially saying hello at the Broadway shows. POTENTIALLY. Absolutely not to close quarters weekends. Not yet, maybe not ever. I need to figure out how to get to "this is a person i am friendly with, even though I don't particularly LIKE them. Alas, we are related."
OH she also had news of my grandpa, her dad (I call him Geepa). He has at least 2 kinds of cancer (skin and prostate) and was recently diagnosed as having autism (my sister had told me that at Beetlejuice, my response was "U DONT SAY".) He is not going to undergo treatment, as he will be 92 this spring and the treatments are worse than the disease at this time. I wanted to get out there to visit him, and now that I know when my mum is going (after his birthday, which is the day after mine), I will endeavour to go sooner.
After dinner on Saturday, I discovered that Amazon (boo hiss) had put up several new seasons of my ambulance show, so that's the next few weeks' watching sorted. Yesterday I did cross stitch a bit while I rotted and watched, but didn't do much else. That's ok :) Winter is for hibernating. And I made potato soup, which is so yummy.
